Showing posts with label relaxation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relaxation. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Therapeutic Dream Catchers!

I had to share this! I have done activities with dream catchers in session before so my eye was drawn to this one that I saw someone else post.  So, I decided to try it in session! Anyhow, I did make an alteration or two, mainly to personalize things a little more for my client.  Also, we used real feathers as well as drawing them (we drew some on as seen in the picture above and we also attached string to the pic and had a couple hanging off the picture from the string).

You could alter this activity depending on your specific client scenario.  See below for this activity idea ...





Directions:  

1) Draw/pattern of dream catcher
2) Decorate dream catcher 
3)  Have the client/patient write out negative emotions, triggers, or experiences. (This would either be accompanying a discussion or follow up to discussion.  Depending on the client, he/she may want to jot these things down during discussion, then transfer over to the dream catcher page).
4) "TRAP" the negative thoughts/triggers/emotions (You could even take a few moments to have the client close his/her eyes and visualize this).  
5) Have the client/patient surround the dream catcher with strengths, positive traits, activities, and other things/people the client loves.  (Again, you may want to take moments to visualize that all those positive "wanted" things are floating free for him/her to have).  

I used quiet music which featured a Native American wood flute and nature sounds in the background.  

Enjoy!

Jessica Daisi

Monday, March 23, 2015

Are you having a "Mind Full Monday" or a "Mindful Monday"?

Hello!

I hope your Monday has been good so far. Remember, if experiencing Monday stress (or stress any day of the week), check out my last blog post on Body Scans ("Just Checking In"). Also, I have an "Oh Monday" post you may enjoy!

Anyhow, here is some follow up to my last post (Body Scans/"Just Checking In").  Here is some of the science around mindful meditation/relaxation:

 Body Scan Meditation

Why It Works

Body scan meditation is a great place to start for an understanding of the ancient and powerful practice of meditation. Meditation, as you surely know, has gone mainstream. It’s now a regular part of recovery programs in hospitals across the country.
According to brain imaging studies [S-4] [S-5] [S-6], meditation can lower high blood pressure and lessen chronic pain, anxiety and depression. It alters regions of the brain associated with memory, self-awareness and compassion.
In a study conducted at the Massachusetts General Hospital, participants attended weekly 2.5-hour group meetings in which they practiced mindfulness meditation. At the end of the 8 weeks, the meditators felt more capable of acting with awareness, observing the world around them and remaining nonjudgmental.
So how exactly does meditation reduce anxiety? In a 2013 study, scientists at Wake Forest identified the brain functions involved in the process. While meditating, participants showed greater brain activity in the ventromedial prefrontal cortex, the area that controls worrying. And when activity increased in the anterior cingulate cortex (the part of the brain that controls thinking and emotions), anxiety levels also decreased. The best part, at least for beginner meditators? You don't have to sit for 30 minutes to reap the benefits: According to the lead author of the study, Fadel Zeidan, Ph.D, "just a few minutes of mindfulness meditation can help reduce normal everyday anxiety." [S-30]
-  Happify.com (Source)


Friday, March 20, 2015

"Just Checking In" - BODY SCAN for Self Care/Stress Management

"Hey, just checking in!"

I've noticed I often start out messages, notes, emails, etc. with that little tag, "Just checking in!"
Well today I incorporated a self care/body awareness technique that reminded me of this.  Some call it a BODY SCAN, but I like to call it, "Just Checking In!"

Doing a body scan exercise only takes moments, and it goes a long way in both increasing your self awareness AND decreasing the progression of things you are allowing within yourself that are mentally, emotionally, and/or physically damaging.  

A Body Scan is just that.  It's you taking some moments to STOP and Check In. CHECK OUT of what you are presently doing  (working, thinking, stressing, staring at a computer, etc) and CHECK IN to your body.  This create's self and body awareness.  Why is this important? Here's why ... 

1)  PHYSICALLY - you become aware of tension building in your body (which can lead to muscle fatigue and tension, headaches, body aches and pain, etc).  Once you are tuned into and become aware of the physical manifestations of stress on your body, you can take steps to alleviate these physical symptoms. You can recognize this sooner, in the beginning stages, rather than later, when it's become actual pain/ailment. 

2) MENTALLY - First off, you are taking a mental break, which is important for more reasons that the obvious.  Not only does it allow you to take a much needed mental breather, you will also find that the quality of your work and your endurance improves upon return.  Secondly, you become more aware and tuned in to your thoughts and how they are affecting your physical body.  When I do this exercise and I find that I have head tension and my brain feels like it's going a million miles an hour trying to get things accomplished, I make a point to focus on my head muscles and my head in general (even picturing my own brain).  Then I tell myself things like, "It's ok, you are working hard and you will get things accomplished.  Relax and then keep going.  It's all good." (Ha, yes, I'm encouraging you to talk to yourself!)

3) EMOTIONALLY - Emotions such as stress and worry and fear (and others ... fill in your own blanks), as you know, have an effect on us physically and mentally.  It works the other way around as well.  Our mental state and physical state can lead to certain emotions which often only continue the cycle.  So! Doing a Body Scan helps us to also become aware of our emotions, identify if we are feeling stress or worry (etc), and also see how it's effecting us in other areas.  We can then correct these, therefore, stopping the cycle.  

So, why wouldn't a quick little exercise like this NOT be an absolute must? Easy, quick, convenient, and it goes a loooooong way.  It could also keep you from developing that annoying headache (or neck pain or stomach issues etc etc) you "seem to get" at the end of a work day or certain project or even in a non work scenario (relationship stress, facing new self goals, etc).  

There are various techniques, ranging from more in depth exercises (similar to PMR exercises and such) to quick, on-the-spot exercises.  Today, though, I would specifically like to focus on a brief version that can be incorporated as yet another type of tool for you and your self care.

* NOTE: Be sure to only do this exercise within a safe environment as it is an exercise that is focused around deep inner concentration.  (Do not do this exercise while driving or during any other safety compromising activity.) 

Here's a quick (but potent) BODY SCAN option:

1) As always, get yourself in a comfortable position.  Close your eyes if able.  

2) Tune out of your external environment and begin to tune into your own body and self.

3) Notice right off what is going on with your body.  Do you feel tension anywhere? Do you feel any aches anywhere? If so, where exactly? Do you notice any dominant or repeating thoughts or feelings that may be leading to this tension? (For example, I may close my eyes and after tuning into my body, I notice that my head feels tense and my mind feels racy.)

3) Become aware of your breathing.  Begin to take more fluid, natural breaths.  Focus on your breathes.  

4) Picture yourself 'breathing in" relaxation and peace with each inhale, and "breathing out" tension and stress with each exhale. 

5) Just continue to notice any places within your body that need attention.  Breath out breaths through this area, and picture that the muscles in that area are relaxing with each breath.  Your mind determines what your body does after all, doesn't it? So tell it to relax. The main purposes of breathing are to breathe life giving oxygen in and to release carbon dioxide (released because it's not what our body needs).  So, it makes sense to breathe in what we need, and breathe out what we don't need.  

6) While you are guiding your breathes and relaxing tensions in your body, also allow yourself to casually notice any thoughts that are coming into your head. Recognize any that may be leading to your body tensions, and release those thoughts.  Each time those thoughts some into your mind, again, just picture yourself releasing them.  Offer in thoughts that are positive as it's these positive thoughts that are actually what help us to "get things done".  

7) Do your best to remained focused inwardly.  However, if interruptions come through, just acknowledge them and then let them slip away.  Then refocus on your body scan. Continue to check in with all parts of your body.

8) When you are ready, gently open your eyes and return to your work or present activity with a better state of mind and relaxed body.  

So ... guess what? These types of exercises not only help "in the moment", they also help to retrain your brain over time.  As you continue to recognize and release negative thought patterns, you will notice that your natural tendencies will begin to naturally shift to positive/healthy thought patterns.  

Have a great weekend, friends!

Jessica Daisi


Thursday, March 12, 2015

50 Strategies to Beat Anxiety - Psychology Today

Many take just minutes; at least one should work for you.
Post published by Alice Boyes Ph.D. on Mar 03, 2015 in In Practice


Source:  Aubord Dulac/Shutterstock

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY



Thursday, April 22, 2010

Carefree Boat Club of Chas ... caring for the caregiver (free service)

Carefree Cares is the community outreach of the Carefree Boat Club of Charleston to people managing the care of family members with disabilities, special needs, or terminal illness. It's about giving time back to caregivers.
Carefree Cares offers restoration of spirit through recreational boating events. These sponsored events are ½ day, on the water charters themed to specific caregiver needs. Best of all, there is no cost to the caregiver.
•Women’s Day Out - Relax and revive while enjoying beautiful Charleston Harbor by boat with lunch on the water
•Women’s Retreat - Partnering with Healing Farm Ministries and The Heart of the Caregiver, these events are timed to conclude a day of healing and fellowship
•Men’s Fishing – Enjoy a morning of fishing the Low Country with other men who are caregivers
•Harbor breeze Sailing day – Experience the peace of sailing the Charleston harbor in our 27ft sailboat with our experienced sail captain.
•A resource for caregivers to services from our business partners.

You can help a Caregiver

•Sponsor an individual caregiver to attend any of our events by donating now.
•Businesses can sponsor the entire event.

•Business Owners can partner with Carefree Cares to offer services for the caregivers. Just give us a call and we'll set up all the details.
for more info : http://carefreecares.bbnow.org/index.php


Happy sailing,
Jessica

Monday, February 1, 2010

Oh Monday ...


WHAT IF MONDAYS COULD GO FROM
<<  THIS .................................... TO THIS >>



Most people feel like this about Mondays ...

Monday Morning

I wake up
and it starts again.
I get up
then I fall back in.
I'm just
not ready for another a week this Monday morning!
I get ready
for a boring day.
I head out
to school on my way.
I just
want it to be over soon this Monday morning!
It's first period
and it's draggin on.
I can't wait
for the bell to ring, I'm gone.
I just
hope there isn't too much of this Monday morning!


The bell rings
fifth period has begun.
I can't believe
the morning's still not done.
I just
need afternoon to drive away this Monday morning!


I get home
finally I'm back.
But there's homework
my, it's such a stack.
I just
wish this day hadn't started off with Monday morning!
-Jane Meyer

I have found something that works to ease the jolt of the things that I dread facing but have to.  It's all about associations, really.  I've blogged on this idea before, but thought that "Monday" would be a great thing to apply it to.  After all, no one can get out of a Monday, and it happens every time every week.

Come up with something that you relish, and a build a Monday ritual around it.  The key is to only allow yourself to do that thing on Monday.  Obviously, it has to be something that you can fit into a Monday easily, and will be able to include EVERY Monday.  "Going to the park" may be something you are able to do this Monday, but may not be something that you know that you'll be able to do every Monday (or it may be depending on your particular location and schedule).  "Grabbing a donut and certain drink (that you only allow yourself on Mondays) on the way to work" may be a good one.  Or, eating at a certain restaurant on Monday for LUNCH may be another good one.  For those of use by the beach, establishing a tradition or grabbing a cup of coffee/treat, and sitting in our car looking out at the ocean for a few minutes b/f work may be a great new tradition (that would go far for me, personally!)

There are many, many possibilities, but make sure it's something that you can really really get excited about.  It has to be catered to you.  If you are trying to come up with this for your child, either think of something that they will look forward to (catered around them) or just simply ask them and let them come up with it. 

NOTE:  Do not put your new Monday tradition in the evening time because by that time, the worst part of Monday is practically over, and you are already close to relaxation and looking forward to Monday's close.  Put this tradition "within reach" during the day (morning or noontime, I would say).  You will then hopefully spend the first part of your day (the typical "hard-to-get-of-bed dread") by looking forward to your Monday tradition, and you will spend the rest of the day feeling refreshed from your Monday moment.  Hey, you may find that you want to include 2 special Monday traditions (one for the morning and one for the afternoon) ... I guess that depends on your degree of typical Monday loathing! ;)

I would love to know your new Monday traditions! They may be ones others would like to adopt as well :)

May the dread of your Monday be softened by the relish of at least one good Monday moment,
Jessica 

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Lay It Down


Lay It Down
-jdaisi grooms
"I feel so tired.
I feel so alone.
So many burdens
and mistakes I've made ...
Tired of carrying them
all my days.


I want to lay them down...
I've got to lay them down...
I'm going to lay them down...
Right now."

Are there things you have been carrying? Things that aren't healthy for you? Things you need to let go of ... things you need to let go of you?

Don't believe those thoughts that you deserve your burdon ... that you earned it.  Don't believe that it's there to stay, that you can't shake it. 

It's time. 

Lay it down. 

Take a moment soon to go to a private peaceful place where you can be alone and focus ... free of distractions.  Put on some instrumental music, and close your eyes and try to focus on making these words count ... then say the above poem/lyrics out loud.  Mean every word.  You may want to take it a step further, and write down those burdens that you are releasing, and then physically 'get rid of them' by throwing the paper in the trash (ripping it first, if you'd like to ... to feel, maybe, that it's truly finished). 

Take a some time afterwards to breath deeply, and picture yourself without those burdens anymore.  Go back to life and reality in that new state.

Jessica

Friday, August 28, 2009

Oh Sweet Friday

It's Friday! I'm just stopping in to say 'hello'. I'm deep in paperwork today, and am managing to come up for air for a moment :o Fridays for me are an time for me to tie up loose ends from the past week so that I don't carry them into next week.

Remember TGIF? When my little sisters were in elementary school, my mom implemented a TGIF tradition that we all looked forward to (I did even though I was a high schooler at that point). This typically included Friday night shows such as Family Matters, Boy Meets World, Full House, etc. We hit the jack pot whenever we could include pizza. I remember Little Ceasars had a great ongoing deal ... oh how we loved Little Ceasars for that! There is something in knowing that that Friday fun was around the corner that got us through some of the not-so-fun week.

I still look forward to Fridays. Sometimes, though, our weekends end up just as packed as the weekends. If you didn't have the opportunity to look at the posting from this past Monday, now would be a good time to do so!
Have a wonderful ... AND RESTFUL (!) ... weekend.

Jessica

Thursday, August 20, 2009

"This blog's for you" (to the moms)

















Hey ladies, "this blog's for you!"
We mommies often overlook the need to take time for our own selves. Many times it feels as though we either don't have 'that kinda time' or by the time we do have it, we are too exhausted and just fall right to sleep.

Speaking right now as both a therapist and a mom, I say it's nothing to overlook. How are we to be the best we can be for our children, family, friends, commitments if we never take time to replenish our supply? When we get so overwhelmed and overworked, we start to, inevitably, feel less and less like ourselves. Not only is this not a good place to be for your own sake, it's not a good place to be for the sake of those who depend on you. Even if it's just 5-10 minutes before you go to bed (or some other time during the day), mentally prepare for that to be your time. I think that part is just as important as the time itself. Does that make sense?

Fortunately, I am a night owl, and so any 'me time' generally falls during those late night hours when everyone is in bed. Now, sometimes I am cleaning during that time, but other times I am taking 'me time'. My 'me time' generally includes book reading, song writing/playing, taking a bath ... all of these usually include lit candles and soft music. Those 5-10 minutes go a long way for me. If you are a morning person, utilize that time.

I took part in something last night that I absolutely loved, and definitely served as 'me time'. I went to a place called Bottles and Brushes with a friend of mine. Basically, you create a painting under the instruction of the original creator of that painting. These are local artists. You have the option of bringing your own food or drink (don't bring wine or beer b/c they serve that there). Also, they serve light beverages there as well.

I tell you, I have had no time for me in a while, and this was so relaxing and, may I say ... therapeutic. It was something that I wouldn't do weekly due to the expense, however, I do plan on returning. The price was $35 and, actually, wasn't bad considering you've got that 1:1 instruction, and you leave that night with your painting. They also supply everything you need. Also, something I appreciated is that you are able to add your own touches, and your artistic improv is appreciated by the artist. The picture above is of myself, the artist (in the middle), and my friend, Jenn whose father is a shrimp boat captain.

I have to put a little disclaimer here so that I don't have any fathers angry with me. This is certainly something the dad's may enjoy as well if they are artistic (may be fun even if they aren't!) My husband is artistic, and expressed an interest.

As I've said before, sometimes you have schedule time in for relaxation to be sure you make it a priority, and to be sure it gets done. Schedule in some 'me time' today. Therapist's orders.

Jessica

Friday, July 17, 2009

Music and Imagery for Children with Serious Illness

As many of you who are familiar with Music Therapy know, there are many techniques and models used within session. As a Music Therapist, I love having such a variety of effective tools as options. Examples of these are music and movement, music and relaxation, active listening, song analysis, song writing, creating music, music and imagery, instrumental improvisation, among others. Having so many tools is one way in which Music Therapy is able to cater to the specifics of a client.

One technique sometimes used in MT has to do with combining music with imagery. Many Music Therapists use basic forms of this, however, there is a whole other level of music and imagery called Guided Imagery in Music in which a Music Therapist can get special training in, and can then specialize in GIM.

Many therapies not only use the imagery technique, but often will encourage this for use outside of therapy as well. Of course, like with any technique implemented, it is important to first learn how to correctly and effectively understand and implement the technique.

I have in my collection of resources a wonderful book called Healing Images for Children by Nancy Klein, M.A.. I mention and list this book in the Recommended Resources section of my website, but wanted to go into a little further detail today.

This is book is geared toward children facing cancer and other serious illnesses. I have found it very useful in use with these children as well as children who are facing other scenarios. Children who are facing scenarios where they need a new perspective on a situation, need to feel empowerment in a situation, need to find a 'safe place', need a method for coping, etc have benefited from this.

This book is full of mini stories with themes. There are categories of stories which are based around a specific medical/hospital scenario such as routine procedures. For example, some of the story categories in this book are: Stories About Taking Medicine, Stories About Radiation Therapy, and Stories About Surgery. Other categories are a little more broad and can relate to children without medically based needs/characteristics. These story categories include: Stories about Relaxation, Stories to Help You Fall Asleep, Stories for Helping with Painful Sensations, Stories About Taking Medicine.

Each story has a specific point of focus included with it (typically repeated throughout the story) such as in the story entitled Paintbrush in which the point of focus is, "I can brush away pain."

Using the proper music alongside these stories is very important. We know that music can have a profound effect on us mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and so on. It is with this in mind that we must realize that music is made up of various components that lead to the type of influence it may have on a person. When choosing music for our own selves, it is easier to determine whether or not the music is having the desired effect because, for example, I know what type of music "makes me feel relaxed". However, choosing music to elicit a certain response/have a certain effect on another person is a little more complicated. You may not interpret a piece of music the same way that I do. There are things to consider such as tempo, key, genre, bpm, tempo and key changes, dynamics, and so on and so forth. There was a time when people assumed that if the music was classical, it was automatically good for relaxation. However, this is not always the case. Be sure to consult with your Music Therapist first. He or she will be able to aid you with this.

Ooooh! I apologize for such a long blog- can you tell I love this book?!

Have a great weekend!

Jessica

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